Youth Inc. Recommends: 5 Resources for Communicating with Coaches

Whether you're a parent, player, or coach yourself, good communication is at the heart of every successful team. But when emotions run high or expectations aren't aligned, conversations can quickly become uncomfortable — or avoided altogether. Learning how to approach these situations with clarity and respect is a skill that pays off far beyond the game. These five resources offer helpful guidance on how to open the lines of communication, ask the right questions, and build better relationships with the coaches who help shape young athletes.

Why Parents Should Avoid Calling the Coach 

What it is: An article from iSport 360 breaking down why parents should think twice before calling their athletes’ coach, and steps parents can take before making the call. 

Why we like it: This article offers a thoughtful reminder that stepping back can be one of the most supportive things a parent can do. By encouraging kids to handle their own conversations with coaches, it helps them build confidence, resilience, and independence. It also keeps the focus on their growth—not on sideline drama. 

A Coaches Advice to His Own Daughter 

What it is: A TikTok from Coach Michael Burt, where he shares why he lets his daughter handle conversations with her coach instead of stepping in himself. It’s a quick but powerful take on building independence in young athletes. 

Why we like it: Coach Burt makes a strong case for letting kids advocate for themselves. By resisting the urge to always “save the day,” parents give their athletes the chance to develop confidence, communication skills, and accountability — all of which matter far beyond the game. 

Parents: Don’t Do This! 

What it is: A TikTok reminding parents to avoid speaking negatively about their child’s coach in front of them. Doing so can damage the trust and communication that’s essential between a coach and athlete. 

Why we like it: It may seem simple, but it’s a crucial part of a young athlete’s development. Keeping conversations positive helps kids stay coachable, learn from criticism, and handle adversity — all of which lead to stronger, more resilient athletes and people. 

The One Simple Gesture That Can Have a Lasting Impression 

What it is: A TikTok from a coach highlighting how simple phrases like “Thank you, coach” or “I understand, coach” can go a long way in building strong coach-athlete relationships. 

Why we like it: As parents, we sometimes overthink how our kids should connect with coaches — but it doesn’t have to be complicated. Respect, basic manners, and clear communication are often the most powerful tools in building trust and strengthening that relationship. 

Three Simple Body Language Tips 

What it is: A TikTok highlighting simple body language tips athletes can use to improve how they communicate with their coach. 

Why we like it: Nonverbal cues often speak louder than words. Teaching athletes small adjustments — like eye contact, posture, or tone — can help them show respect, stay engaged, and build stronger relationships with their coaches.